PRIVACY in RELATIONSHIP

Privacy. Something we all take very seriously, no? What about privacy in a relationship? When it comes to how much you're willing to share with your significant other, where do you draw the line? We asked some 'in a relationship' individuals and this is what they had to say.

Sadia Afrin, 19: Privacy is nice but there's something special about being in the type of relationship where you can be totally open with each other. In doing so if the other person gets to learn everything about you and still accepts you, that's a beautiful thing. I don't want to feel the need to hide things from my boyfriend. I want him to accept me no matter what so I try to be completely honest with him. He returns my efforts by telling me everything as well. We have no problems being open about our past, present issues and future dreams. I feel that the only way two people can truly get to know each other is by dropping the privacy. I don't mind letting him read my messages and all, we also like sharing passwords.

Alvii Ahmed, 16: In my opinion privacy depends on the type of the relationship and the thoughts of the people in the relationship. It's all a matter of trust and since my girlfriend and I are close, we trust each other completely. I don't think I've ever come across something that was too private to share with her but this is something that happened over time. I guess its similar for every relationship -- for it to be serious, the privacy limit needs to be cut down slowly and finally abandoned. My girlfriend isn't the secretive type. Of course I do not want to pressurize her but thankfully she is comfortable keeping me updated about personal issues. We also have each other's Facebook, email passwords, etc. But respecting each other's privacy -- like social network passwords, for example -- is very important in the initial stages of the relationship. You can't ask to read a person's text messages on the first date!

Fatema Ali, 20: I sit in front of the computer for hours every day. Why? I need to keep an eye on the number of likes my boyfriend gets on his profile picture. Fifty likes in a just a few minutes? I scroll through, looking at all the people who pressed 'like'. I knew it! Ms. Hot Pants, liking his profile picture as usual! And just last week I noticed he liked Ms. Duckface's photo; what was that all about? He hasn't liked a single one of my photos recently! So I did what I do best -- signed into his account and removed everyone who remotely resembled a girl… No, this person isn't me but sadly it's many people I know. Where has respect for privacy gone? Do we even know what it means? Many would say privacy is just “closing the door while changing.” To me privacy is much more than that. It stands very close to faith/trust. It is about having personal space. The sharing of passwords; the mushy, graphic pictures from dates; the flaunting of gifts exchanged and the incessant checking up on partners are a big NO for me.

Nafiul Akbar, 22: Well for me every relationship requires its own set of boundaries and limits. The set of boundaries you impose on each other actually moulds your relationship as a whole. Therefore where to draw the privacy line is a crucial decision. I try to keep my financial condition private from her. Since I believe money is not the root of happiness, I discourage my significant other from asking “How much are you carrying today?” Simply put, privacy in my relationship means she should not focus on money, and rather just have fun.