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Dear Mita,
I recently learnt that my uncle, who I am extremely close to, is suffering from fourth stage cancer. I love him dearly and I know that it's going to be very difficult for me to let him go. However, I am worried about his mental state and his family's wellbeing. They were only informed about this diagnosis a few days back. He had confided in me that he wants this transition to be as smooth as it can be but he is worried that his wife and two children won't be able to cope with his death. I would really like to help him and his family to ease their pain. What can I do to ensure that my uncle's last days on earth are as peaceful and stress free as is possible?
Distraught
 

Dear Distraught,
I am very sorry to learn about your uncle’s illness. Cancer is a terrible disease and can wreck havoc in a family. It is also very hard to accept the passing away of a close family member. However, since he has sought your help you have to be strong and support the family in everyway you can. The most important thing to do now is to keep your uncle happy. Talk about good times, about the many happy moments you all spent together. His wife and two children must also slowly start to accept this reality and come to terms with it. I know it is easier said then done but you have to convince them. Crying and being unhappy in front of him will not help. Most importantly, he needs love and affection, not sympathy.