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Dear Mita,
I am a student of a renowned private university. I have had a huge crush on a girl in my university. She recently broke up with one of my friends who was cheating on her. I have been in a relationship with a girl for three years but things are not working out for us. And the dilemma is I cannot stop thinking about my crush. What should I do? Should I tell her that I like her?
Dashboard Confession
 

Dear Confession,
I hope you do know that a crush and being in a long term relationship is not the same thing. If things are not going well with your long term partner then try to fix it. It could be a temporary misunderstanding. However, you seem very confused and should make up your mind about what you really want. It is not a good idea to tell your “crush” anything before you resolve the other relationship.
   
Dear Mita,
I am working at a state owned bank. Nowadays I find my work very monotonous and mundane. After working for four years in the same bank, I am now thinking of switching to a new workplace. But I think that I need a business degree from a reputed business institution to help me get a better job. However, I am not being able to take proper preparations because of my tremendous workload. After toiling all day, I feel very tired and can't concentrate on my studies. I even have a wife and a year-old daughter and need to give them some time as well. I had applied to a university to continue my masters but the authorities concerned rejected my application to give me some time off to pursue higher education. I am thinking of quitting this job to concentrate on my studies but am not sure about what to do, as I have a family and responsibilities. Please help me.
In a Dilemma
 

Dear Dilemma,
People often get stuck in jobs that they don't like or find boring. My first advice is not to do anything in a hurry. You already have a job, take your time to find another one; please do not leave the present one before you find a suitable job. As you mentioned, you have a wife and child. Once your child is a little older, your wife can also think of contributing to family expenses. Regarding higher studies, if you put your mind to it and try harder you will be able to find the time. Other people have done it and there is no reason why you should not.