The many secrets to relationships
Mohsena Reza Shopna explores the nature of modern romance
Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man is a book where we get to know what men really think about love, relationships, intimacy and commitment. It has been described as 'a thorough, witty guide to the modern man'.
It is written in very simple language for anyone to understand and communicate. It is as if you are opening out your heart to your dearest friend .Going through it, one does not get bored. It is like an everyday happening with which you can identify yourself and hence makes pleasant reading.
Everything you need to know about men and relationships is right here. It never ceases to amaze us how much people talk about relationships, think about them, read about them and ask about them. Too many women are clueless about men who get away with a whole lot of stuff in relationships because women have never understood how men think. On the other hand, women have made it clear that they want their love to be reciprocated in the same way they give it. They want their romantic lives to be as rewarding as they make them for their potential mates; they want the emotions that they turn on full blast to be met with the same intensity . But there are basic things in men that are never going to change, no matter how good you are to them, until you understand what their makeup is, what drives them, what motivates them. But with this book you can get into a man's mindset and understand him better.
Men are simple. They are driven by who they are, what they do and how much they make. These three things make up the basic D N A of manhood. Until a man does these things, women only fit into the cracks of his life. But a woman's love stands the test of time, logic and all circumstances. A man's love is different and probably a little harder to come by. You will know a man loves you, when he professes, he is willing to tell anybody and everybody. The next step is to provide. Society has told men for millennia that their primary function is, to make sure that the family is set. Protective… when a man truly loves you, anybody who says, does, suggests or even thinks about doing something offensive to you stands the risk of being obliterated!
There are tips from Steve Harvey who is a 'stand_up comedian, actor, philanthropist, host of the Steve Harvey Morning Show and the game show Family Fued.' He is also the international best selling author of Straight Talk, No Chaser. Steve continues to say, 'We need to talk' and other such words. How to tackle? He is there to teach you. In Part Two, Steve lets us know 'why men do what they do '. Part Three,The Playbook, speaks of how to win the game. He gives the most valuble tip, 'Men respect standards, get some'.
In his opinion, the answers to the questions every woman should ask before she gets into too deep a relationship depend on the nature of the questions: What are your long term goals, short term goals ? What are your views on relationships? What do you think about me? How do you feel about me? Then he puts up a ninety- day rule. To get the respect you deserve, find out how he reacts when you tell him you have some problems? How does he react under pressure? His reaction to bad news and when he is told 'no'? Then there are tips for strong, independent and lonely women. Finally, how to get the ring! There are all those quick answers to the questions you have always wanted to ask.
Steve Harvey cannot count the number of impressive women he has met over the years. Women who can run a business, keep a household with three kids in tiptop shape, and chair a church group all at the same time. So when it comes to relationships, he wonders why these women cannot figure out what makes men tick. According to Harvey, it is because they are asking other women for advice when they should be going directly to the source. In this indispensable relationship guide, Act Like A Lady Think Like A Man, he lets women inside the male mindset. He introduces concepts such as the ninety-day rule and reveals the five questions women should ask to find out how serious he is.
Sometimes funny, sometimes direct, but always truthful, this book is a must read if one wants to understand how men think when it comes to relationships, intimacy and love.
Mohsena Reza Shopna writes poetry and is a social activist.
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