SUBTLE MISOGYNY

Let's try this together. Pick a random 'item' song from a random Bollywood movie, ignore the 'item' girl and pay attention to the lyrics. I pick “Fevicol Se” (Dabangg 2) and I'll skip straight to the part where Kareena Kapoor is dancing to lyrics and she  basically compares herself to…tandoori chicken waiting to be devoured. Wait. What?
Indeed, if we look past these crowd-drawing songs in Bollywood movies, we'll see appropriation of behaviour such as publicly teasing or forcing displays of affection on the lady as the way to win over her while she's been deflecting all advances. There's a vast difference between playing hard to get and not showing interest, but that line is somehow always blurred, and often sends out the message that any uninterested woman needs to be forced into seeing the love. The underlying message in all this is the channelling of subtle misogyny. Newspaper headlines occasionally make the slip, too. If a woman makes the headlines, the fact that she's a woman, is almost always spelled out explicitly. Men don't seem to need that kind of labelling. In fact, examples of subtle misogyny can be found across all forms of media. Thai soap operas caused a bit of stir with their “romantic rape” – portrayal of rape legitimised as acts of love. Whether intended or not, women are consistently dehumanised and objectified, which gives the general masses the idea that it's okay to behave that way with women.

It's important to remember that misogyny is a hate crime and it's not limited to men being the purveyor. Female misogynists also line up in the league. The shashuri-bou squabbles and troubles that have entertained the serial-bingers and fuelled the gossips of the bhabis are classic examples. Churning out the four-lettered slur when a girl incessantly hits on your SO is one thing, but labelling all women who aren't you and have impressed guys you've fancied with the same word is stepping a bit over the line. Taylor Swift has highlighted this in her previous albums, labelling women who wear skirts shorter than her short skirts (“Better Than Revenge”) and who do whatever she's not doing between the sheets (“You Belong With Me”) to be lesser human beings. Apparently this is the 'old' Taylor and the 'new & improved' Taylor is preaching that it's important to watch what you're saying. I can't wrap my head around the concept of a misogynist feminist, so I'll move on.
Let's consider these. How often do we hear people say things like “you're pretty smart for a girl”? Why is it that if women are harassed in public, the blame is put on their clothing or behaviour and they are told to accept it? A woman with a maths degree? Just someone to crack sexist jokes about. Wore a sleeveless blouse in public? Men surely can't be blamed if they're tempted by seeing bare arms. Rose up the ranks at your job? People will claim it's to be attributed to 'unethical' acts with the boss (because the boss is unlikely to be a female as well, right?). Many a times, these are just shrugged off as normal, highlighting how ingrained these are in society.
It's important for everyone to pay a little attention to being gender neutral because a little misogyny goes a long way when it comes to harming the position of women within a society. Unless you're Taylor Swift.

Source: http://www.bangkokpost.com/learning/learning-from-news/438117/thai-soap-operas-trigger-outcry-over-romanticising-rape